Life After Goodbye

Tragic story of Romeo and Juliet. No matter how long ago this line has been uttered, it still rings today.
Such sweet sorrow… No matter what many of us say, it is extremely difficult to say goodbye. Whether to a friend, a neighbor, an officemate, a boy or girlfriend, it hurts just the same.
When we have shared happy moments with someone, it is hard to let go. It is painful to go through life without that person who shared precious moments with us. It really takes a lot of psyching up before we convince ourselves tat it is okay to let go. Yet, no matter how prepared we sometimes feel, it still hurts so bad when the actual time to say goodbye comes.
There is no painless way to say goodbye. There simply is easy way. Though we know that life is full of comings and goings, we wish the “goings” part would be less. The rationale is simple. Why do we have to meet someone only to let go him/her in the end?
Why do we have to establish strong bonds only to be forced to severe them? It is truly very painful. Very frustrating. Very depressing.
Loving someone only to say goodbye to him/her in the end has a very damaging effect on an individual. When we are forced to say goodbye, it is like a part of us have been taken away. It feels like a void has suddenly formed and no matter how hard we try to fill it, it just doesn’t fill up.
Saying goodbye makes us feel very empty and hallow. It can even traumatize us. Wouldn’t it be easier if we do not build relationships anymore that we won’t be subjected to the harshness of goodbye? Wouldn’t it be more logical to just look at people as temporary “accessories” to the environment and thus building a relationship is not necessary? Unfortunately, these are impossible. People, no matter how hard they try to shun from relationships (whether platonic or romantic), will still come across someone who will create a great impact in their lives. Because of this, pain is reaped when it is time to say goodbye.
Life changes when we let go of someone we alive. This is especially true it we are often with that person. The signs and sounds do not change. The places are familiar yet, strangely, they extremely different. You have to learn to readjust to your surroundings. Many questions run through the head of a person after bidding someone a sad goodbye. Questions like “How do you let go of the things you shared?” “Should you continue all your plans? Or should you forget about them?” saying goodbye is really disorienting. But since we have no choice but to concede to the fact that saying goodbye is a part of life, we have to learn to deal with it. We have to make it less painful when it comes. Less painful? Yes, we can actually make this sad event bearable. Remember that when someone leaves, someone new will come along. This person will probably be even better that the one you bid goodbye. He/she will also give joy, share precious moments with you, and renew your enthusiasm. Like the one you parted from, he/she will help you grow and mould your personality. Although saying goodbye is painful, it shouldn’t leave a bitter aftertaste. A friend will most likely say that it is the philosophy of the escapists, but we still have to believe that things happen for a purpose. While we still can’t see what the reason is, it will eventually manifest. And when it does, we will know that something is painful as a goodbye has to happen for us to grow. It is okay to feel low. It is okay to be sad. These are natural reactions of a person who lost someone he/she loves. Don’t force yourself to be happy when you’re not. Don’t rush the healing process. Let time heal the wounds. But do not tie yourself down to pain. There’s still life after goodbye. It may seem very final and conclusive, but a fresh start happens after a bitter goodbye. Nothing in the world is permanent – and that includes the pain you feel now. Look forward to that brand new start. Keep your hopes high and know that you will recover from this episode. Envelope yourself with comfort from people around you. You shouldn’t go through this alone. Know that there are people you who love you in the same intensity as the person you said goodbye to. In time, you will forget the pain. You might even lose the painful memories. But never lose the lessons you learned and the happy memories you had of the relationship. Keep them with you and remember them when time comes that you need a fond memory to cheer you up.

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