What women need to understand?
Kumar was a software engineer having his own business in Chennai. His young wife was Anita. It was a Sunday. He was about to go out to meet a friend.
Anita; ‘hey, Kumar, please come soon before 1p.m for lunch. I am preparing special non-vegetarian food for you. I will be waiting for you, so please make it fast and come back home soon, ok dear?’
Kumar: ‘sure my honey, I will be here before that, ok?’
But he came back after 7.p.m.She shouted at him and went to bed with out eating.
Krishnan and Lalitha were another young couple living in Chennai. Krishnan was in the imports and exports trade. It was a Saturday. He had already reserved two tickets for a film for the evening show.
Lalitha: dear, please come in time, I am so eager to see the film. I will be waiting for you.
Krishnan: ok, darling, I will be back much before.
Krishnan came after 10.pm.Needless to say Lalitha picked a big quarrel with him. She then began to cry. They went to bed with out dinner that night.
Why these men could not keep the promise? What happened to them?
Kumar met a college friend in a restaurant. His friend told him that he was presently working in Singapore and had to leave on that day itself. He further said that he would definitely get him a big software order from Singapore. Therefore, kumar stayed with him and continued his business talks till his friend left for his hotel. Kumar was so happy to have met his friend and about the very useful discussions he had with him.
Krishnan was about to start to his home. He got a call from one of his dear friends. His friend informed that his cousin who was a well-established exporter in London was in Chennai that day and it was the right time to meet him. It was indeed a great opportunity for Krishnan and so naturally, he forgot about his wife and the film and went on with his work.
In both the cases, there is nothing wrong with the men. They did their duty and explained it clearly to the wives. Unfortunately, they refused to understand the husbands.
Men give small disappointments to women to give them and their children a better living. Women need to understand the facts and stop giving importance to small matters like film and food. Will they?
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Storm in a tea cup!
Being a woman, I can understand how disappointed and worried, the women in each of these stories must have felt when each of them sat up worrying about what could have happened and why is the husband late.
Eventually when the so called "errant" husband turns up all hell would break loose. Attack and fury unleashed! Her anxiety, worry , suspicion, jealousy all these emotions would overtake each other to come to the fore and momentarily she is blinded not being able to think and act rationally. Firing squad is called in and firing off from both barrels; both would throw highly explosive devices at each other! Tear gas out! Injured parties sent sulking to bed!
Is this worth it? But one thing has to be kept in mind both are young and hot blooded, inexperienced in holding back their tempers. Each of them rightfully becomes the hurt party. Each of them according to each of their priorities thinks and feels that they are the victim.
So when the husband explains to her, she is like a deflated balloon, but pride and hurt will not allow her yet to see clearly and forgive. She is still feeling bitter and sees only neglect, thoughtlessness and all the imaginative feelings of being overlooked and slighted, are present in overdoses, and these thoughts stubbornly would not allow her to see her husbands point of view or even appreciate his efforts.
The man on the other hand realizes his lapse in not informing the wife that he will be late, reasonably overlooked in the excitement of clinching the deal of his life, when he would at last be able to afford to look after his young family in the manner of his dreams; fails to see why he is the victim of such a barrage when all he had in mind was the welfare of his beloved wife and family.
Therefore, after the respective meetings each would hurry back to joyfully break the news to their better halves not realizing that their lapse in overlooking to inform, was going to cost them bitterly, and to have their dreams shattered. Even the late explanations will not change the effects of their great news and both would be the hurt party.
I can see this clearly as at some stage or the other I may have acted in a similar manner. It's only human.
I am sure that the making up after the storm would be a great moment to remember. This is where true love for one another allows them to see the fault each made in rushing to conclusions, and right then they take a step further into the adult mature world. These little ups and downs are those that help a couple to understand and meet the much difficult problems they would have to face in this long journey of life.
Vijay, obviously these are not factual stories and just a means to elaborate a point you wished to raise, one which you may have seen happen in your experience of life, though not in this same manner. But I cannot understand why any of the wives failed to call their husband's mobile phones. If they did this storm in the tea cup would not have happened. Then no story either. You are a great story teller I must say. Next time remember to include the mobile phones!
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thank you sylvia
for your long comment.I am happy that you both raised the point about that mobile phone.I actually expected it.It shows that you both have read the article in full and gone to the depth of it.
The words young wife and young couple indicate that it happened when I was also very young.It happened between 1985 and 1990 when there was no mobile phone in use.Even if it happens now if the man starts to speak to her about his inability to be at home as per the promise,will she continue the talk?
It is ok.I do not want to continue the arguments any more.I want to remind you that I have written articles such as "you are my God Uma','Learn management techniques from a house wife','A loving mother wished her son to become the best sweeper'.It shows the respect and love I have for women.
If some articles seem to hurt someone,well I will certainly avoid them in future,because I am here for fun and developing more friends.I never bow to any threat.However I will always try my best to avoid hurting anyone ,it may be a small kid or even a beggar on the street.Now KEEP SMILING.
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do u know what makes to a successful marriage ?
give time and respect the feelings of family member,
now you have to tell me y are u always behind blaming women or wives, dont feel bad but tell me dont u have a wife and dont u have any respect and love for her,
the heading of ur topic itself made me feel that it must have been u who is the author......nobody in this community has abused women like this, sorry to tell u but if u have to excel in life pls try to change ur attitude mr. vijayanth, it will only do good to u, atleast give it a try and experience the differnce
ur story has not mentioned the husbands telling the wives that they will not be able to keep up their promises before coming home which they both could have done with a one minute call in between their so said busy schedule. i am sure its a made up story from ur imagination just to show how women are never understanding in ur own way
try not to repeat any more provocative stories making women the villians of life!! this should be your last and i will make sure that i wont let u post such matters here in WC
be good to others and they will be good to u
give respect and take respect
you scratch my back and i will scratch your
ok vijayanth
hope u got the message and dont forget small small happiness in life is the secret behind every successful lives!!
take care
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here is my reply Dhanya
So it is you who flagged my article.
First, I want to tell you that I always respect women and I love them. Please do not have any doubts about this.
There is no second opinion to flag an offensive article. However, it is equally important that an article that is not offensive should not be flagged.
I really do not know what annoyed you so much in this article, which was written to convey a good message to women. No one is flawless in this world. If I have the concern on my child, I will certainly try to point it out his/her mistakes. It is not because I have hatred on my child but for the good future of the child only.
I have written that men are low in morals than women. I have written that women have more self-control than men do. I wrote, “never murder an innocent wife?’ Do you think I have offended men? So do you want all men bloggers to flag that article?. However, I am happy they have understood my writings and me.
The fact is I never meant to write anything to degrade women.
In this particular article, I have given a few points about how women react to certain situations. When I have the right to say about the discrepancies of men I also have the right to say about women.
If I use bad words or criticized a particular person then you may flag my article. But if you encourage flagging, an ordinary article, which is not offensive what will happen? All the bloggers will start flagging the articles of other bloggers in future.
You have commented about my family, which is really offensive. For your information I have a loving wife and lovely sons and a happy family. I do respect my wife and all the women I move with. I don’t know about your family and I don’t need to. I will never comment about your family.
I have just tried to point out that women give more importance to small matters like a lunch and a film. It is written with a good objective and not to offend any woman.
I always welcome good and useful criticisms. I do believe in constructive criticisms. I hope you will understand me better now. Thank you very much for your views.
Don't blame women always vijay,
in this case they were busy, but sometimes men also neglect. Its always not the same story.
I agree with you vaishali
what I mean here is ,if men have to skip a programme for the sake of business,they have to understand that.
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No way. The men did not do
No way. The men did not do right. They promised their wives they would return home and in not showing up, they were disrespectul to their wives and their marriages. They should have called their wives instead of "naturally, forgetting about..." them. That's not natural - it's rude and disrespectful!
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thanks for the comments skewedslipsism
please read it once again.we can go for the film another day but the oppoturnity may not come again.We can have non veg another day.Afterall men earn for women only.
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