Never be obsessed with Sexual Love

Thank you Sir. I have been a little disturbed by what I see all around me in India, in literally all parts of the country. While a little freedom in inter-personal relationships between men and women is a welcome sign,taking things a little far in terms of undesirable things is not what is expected of a society, where marriage is still a binding force, and still a very sacred institution.

I am glad my message has been received well. Thank you once again.

Thank you so much. I have been sharing what I have been seeing all around me, and all based on my experience. Iam glad you found it good. Please do give me a feedback on all my artciles too.

Thank you Sir. In fact, I am extremely happy that I have got such good responses. Well, it always happens that the physical attraction takes over, at least in the initial phase when either of the partners or both find something that can be admired in the other person. However, since life is a much more complex thing, one should never loose sight of the other complications of inter-personal relations, more so,between husband and wife. This is extremely important, and this is the only thing that will sustain the institution of marriage.

Thank you Haarika. I thank you so much, for having made a very encouraging observation. I work in the Corporate sector, and I get to meet with hundreds of thousands of people, which provides me with insights into what is going on in institutions such as marriage. I have even counseeled a few people. Most of my articles are based on my experiences. I do hope you will give a feedback on my other articles too. Thank you once again.

Thank you so much Madam. Your views are always like a tonic, they are so encouraging. Yes, I am of the firm opinion that in the South of India, we are yet to catch up with the westernised North, where the institution of marriage seeks to be in sort of trouble. My main point is that physical proximity alone is never ever enough to sustain a marriage. Once we cross this barrier, and there is a lot of caring and sharing between any husband and wife,marriages would have acquired a new meaning.

Thank you so much,sanjubaba. I have been receiving good feedback on this article, and I do believe you agree with the main points of the article. Yes, I will go through your blog and share my views as well.

Thank you Sapna. You have said it all -- yes, I did want the youth to possibly read it, and understand that true love means so much. It is just not physical attraction alone. What worries me is the lack of time that people of all ages now have for each other -- look at what is going on in homes having both life partners working in BPOs, and you will understand. Well, there is a lot of money, but no happiness. Life is miserable because either partners does not understand the needs of the other. It is a viscious circle. Hence, the only solution is for one of them to take up a job that has a general shift demand, so that the household is managed better. For every problem, there is a solution, but maybe, certain off-beat solutions need to be tried out too -- for example, what is so wrong in the husband being the home-maker for a couple of years, doing just some odd jobs to keep himself going, when the wife has an excellent job, salary and money? This might sound stupid, but I guess it will happen one day. Or rather, it should.

Since I do not know where you hail from, it is not proper on my part to comment. The point I tried to make was that arranged marriages are pretty common in the South of India.

Similarly, love marriages are becoming very common too. Both have ended up in a large number of success stories and failures as well. So,am not too sure how far the country matters much, though am told, divorce is so common in the West.

Let's think for a moment -- what happens when either partners do not even appreciate something good in the other? Or has an ego that refuses to think beyond praise all the time, and craves for praise from all and sundry? I know of such people, they just refuse to see the reality. So, marriages can work when there is emotional bonding. Otherwise, it can result in a failure.

I know of such people, they just refuse to see the reality

Thank you. I only wanted to alert several thousands of young men and women who fall only for the physical relationship. They never bond to each other emotionally. This is a major problem. This is exacly what I wanted to stress in my article. I do hope I have done that.

Thank you. I do write from all my life experiences, and yes, they would be practical from point of view. I shall vist my blogs and come back to you. All the very best.

Thank you once again.

Thank you, Vaishali. Life's experiences, not only one's own, but several others as well, does teach one several lessons. I have learned in this fashion. I have seen several success stories, and sob stories as well. If my writing will get the unmarried to think a little, I think I have done my bit, though there is a lot more to be written.

Vaishali, it also helps that I work in the HR profession and meet with hundreds of different types of people; I learn a lot from such experiences too. In this highly commercialised world, I personally feel that true and emotions and feelings can play a vital role not only in very young people, who might have fallen in love, but in several other relationships like colleagues in offices, friends, and even close relatives. Many such relationships also fall flat only because commercial considerations quickly take over. However, I personally feel that we should have our own checks and balances and never forgo our self-respect, irrespective of our circumstances, particularly financial. So, in my opinion what applies to those in love, applies to other relationships as well.