Are parents wise enough to handle their children?
Now-a-days youngsters are not interested in running to their parents for the solutions of their each and every problem. They hardly like their parents’interference in their matters. They think themselves wise enough to handle their affairs.
Are they really able to manage life’s ups and downs?
As far as I feel these days youngsters are having wisdom. They can overcome their problems. They are career conscious. They know the art of enthusing themselves to achieve their target. But they lack experience. For handing the life one needs to be wise and experienced. Without the combination of two it is always difficult to lead life successfully.
Because of lacking experience they sometimes implement wrong solutions and just double and triple their problems. They not only get themselves but also their parents trapped in problems.
Parents criticize their children at that moment. But do they ever think why their children do not like them to know about their problems and offer them solutions? I think parents hardly think over it because they are too busy in proving their children wrong.
In my opinion parents do have experience but they lack wisdom and patience which are utmost necessary and are needed while handling children. Parents do come with the valuable and workable suggestions but they do not give their children time to think over the solutions. They are too determined to make their children implement all their advices at the very moment. It just irritates their children and they lose their interest in solving the problems. Parents’ behavior stops their children from implementing the solutions given by them. It also makes them develop disinterest in sharing their problems with their parents.
I think parents should act wisely and give breathing space to their children. It will motivate them. They would not only be ready to have a discussion over their problems but also in applying solutions seriously.
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Good one
Hi vanshika,
Coming to your point of view, this might be also due to the generation gap. For example, the parents don't like their children to be modernly and dressed with minimum clothings. Rather they would like their children to wear clothes that bring respect on them. They give advices on the consequences of such clothes, but hardly the children understand / listen and over-rule their parents. This is not due to improper guidance-rather it is the generation gap and the societal perspective.
The children are more advanced in their thinking as you told, but they should voluntarily seek help from their parents / elders who are well experienced and must realise that their parents have also crossed their stage of adolescence etc. A new sword can be powerful that a blunt one, but to how to handle / use them must be learnt from a teacher, else it might hurt oneself. This is applicable in this case also, where children's thoughts are like sword and how to action them could be learn from their parents.
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Hello Vanishika
Reading the comments down the line in reply to your very fine article, firstly I must say that this has brought out a good dialogue.
Now to my opinion... Read my articles on the indigo child...those children are very intelligent and seemingly lose interest very fast,they have troubles with rage, are selfish get frustrated at the least thing. Are impatient with parents, teachers, siblings and even their friends if they are not understood and cannot tolerate stupidity. Are also hyperactive.
Most of them are born leaders. Yet there's so many things they don't understand and don't really know why. These children need a lot of love and understanding. Parents should spend more time and not lose their patience in handling this child.
It is good to sit your child down and discuss with them their day. Some will not have the patience to do this. But this is a relationship a parent builds up with time from the very start.
Children today are very knowledgeable with the advent of TV and the computer. Be a part of that knowledge and discuss. Get them to open up to you. Here then is the opportunity for the parent to guide the child in the right direction. Go along with their ideas but be firm in you direction.
Some children may want to do things because of peer pressure and may reject your advice. Here again parents should act with tact and subtlety.
If you really put your mind to it, this will not be difficult as after all who better than you as a parent, you know your child, his wants, needs, likes and dislikes.
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well said vanshika
Allowing/guiding rather than instructing children on the decision is the key to have a good relationship.
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You are not correct
It is the parent who guide their children and if the children does not listern to them then there is something wrong in parenting them.
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kids have no wisdom
they are brainy but lack experience and parents should guide-rightly pointed out
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parents and children
I sometimes wonder who has the best solution to the problems.Are the kids right or are the parents?.It becomes difficult to choose between the two because when one later finds the other was right we always feel why did we react so? Something every family faces,I guess.
Nice Article
I do agree with you that Youngsters today are career concious and have wisdom but there are some events of life where experience is needed along with wisdom nad understanding to either solve a problem or find the right direction. This is where I feel the extertise and experience of parents come handy. I don't think they lack patience, it is only their effort of getting the very best for their child that sometimes causes a clash between both sides. There may be a generation gap between parents and children but as parents they always try to do the best for their children, so it is needed that we respect this emotion and try to find a midway that is beneficial to both without hurting anybody's ego.
Understanding is always useful
If both parents and children understand each other and try to find out the solution acceptable to both problem can be solved easily and better and positive results can be obtained.
Wisdom in the Family Depends on Power Struggle
Actually discussion over relations between parents and children may be quite complicated. In my opinion no decision can be a wise decision. In a family sometimes children are wiser than their parents. Therefore any type of interference may crush the career or talent of children. And sometimes parents are very wise but still children don't want to listen to them. They go their own way, and mostly spoil their life.
A family also moves through a power struggle. And you know only the winner is wise in this world.
Still we may try to adopt a middle approach.
Thanks dear kingsolomin
Thanks for reading and commenting. I agree life is a power struggle. Your value depents on the achievements you get but wether others understand the wisdom of a wise person or not he will remain wise.
Role Model!
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You are right dear lady. but partially.
As a counselor I think it is very much essential for the parents to be a Role Model to their children. Because if you practice what you preach then its enough for the children to see, get encouragement and be motivated and study or work in any sphere but with the correct value system. They will choose the right kind of jobs as their perspective is well developed because of their parents. Being an example is so important for anybody whether he/she is educated or not doesn't matter.
Secondly, as you said 'space' is important.
Practice What You Preach
is good advice. Kids need good role models. Their family is the first and most important lessons in their young lives.
I agree but
I think that children learn a lot from their parents but it is not in the all cases. Sometimes children do the opposite of what their parents do. There are many cases where parents are well educated but their children do not take interest in study at all. It is also seen that father does not smoke or drink but children do so. Mother is a religious lady but children do not believe on God. Formation of thinking is not only based on the behaviour of parents. Many factors work in it.