Is marriage necessary?
According to the Hindu religion marriage is utmost necessary as this relationship is God made. It is said that marriages are made in heaven. Is it so? In modern world should we and need we believe in it?
I think God made us free and by getting married we just tie ourselves with chains. We become legally and socially others slave. Without their consent we can not take any decision of life. We feel ourselves suffocated. After marriage we are not only liable to our life partner but also to his family. According to Hindu religion only marriage is not sufficient you also have to produce children. Responsibilities towards life partner and his family eat up our most of the valuable time which can be devoted towards our development and the remaining time is consumed by children. We are left with no option but to sacrifice our most of the desires and chances of personal development.
Marriage puts so many question marks on our future. If by luck we get a good life partner we are safe to some extent though even in it complete chances for progress are not there but if our stars are in bad mood we may have to spend our life with a very in co-operated and whimsical person. There are just more and more headaches in getting involved with a person. I don’t say marriage is a complete negative package but it certainly makes our progress slow down. So should a person get married? I feel who want to taste it must go ahead but the remaining must not forced to do so. Dear bloggers what do you say?
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This is really tricky Vanshika
As you have put it,but I feel when we get married we do forego a lot and that too depends on what kind of a person you are.Differs from person to person.
I have a good married life and my husband is very supportive.
I can only write my own experience here.As far as I am concerned there were no restrictions on me after marriage from any of my in-laws.I did what I liked even when I lived in a joint family.It was really fun.I am really lucky to have a family like this.
This is all I can say.If we learn to accept people and situations as they are,our life becomes much more easier.
Good point raised!
Best wishes!
Uma
Thanks uma
for your comment. You are a nice person with a good heart. I agree a lot depends on our nature. If we try to accept people as they are it is easy for us to have a good relationship with others and live a happy life. Keep writing.
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stars are with Vanshika atlast
good writing again.But in India we have to get married for our society and for the sake our children.Marriage is a bond which is concreted by our kids.Women are becoming more and more independent now.Only indians are living a happy peaceful married life ,that is because of our marriage set up only.
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Have you used your astrology Vijayanths
to calculate my stars? My stars always support me as I always encourage them by believing in them with out believing in astrology. Thanks for your nice comment. Keep writing.
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Vanshika..vanshika...
really a complicated one to answer, but still let me try.
If there is no person around you,who advices u to get married, like ur parents or family members, u can dare to go without it[don't worry much about society].
And if in any circumstances, u marry, don't forget an important thing in life, that you don't have to lose ur identity in order to make each one happy in the family after marriage.And keep ur attitude like that from very beginnning, becoz, if you be a very nice wife and bahu, initially and later u start thinking for urself, its more hurting. I have learnt it very late, u be prepared from first.
Don't know if u like my views but itz mt experience.
Thanks vaishali
I feel you are right. We must start thinking about ourselves from the beganing. If we start thinking later our family members are not able to digest it as they have become habitual of getting only services from us. Then they are not ready to support us. We must agree marriage is a relationship difficult to handle. I feel atleast for me.
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sylvia May I know your opinion?
What do you feel? You are the most mature blogger. You have spent so many years with your partner. What do you think? Can't a person live more happily alone?
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Thank you Vanishka for asking me...
My husband & I have shared a very happy and fulfilling marriage for 36 years. He is totally the opposite of me, but we do share some nice interests as well. We have 3 strapping boys and as young men go, full of adventure and life. I cannot tell you that life has been all rosy. Thats what makes it all beautiful; the sharing. We are a close family. No marriage is perfect without ups and downs. There are times that is better to give in rather than hang on to your opinion. If your judgment is right and you give in he will appreciate you as even though he will not acknowledge it at the time, he will seriously think about what I said and look at the problem from another angle. We have family days when everyone can be themselves. Overall we have fun as a family. They are all very protective of me, but at the same time let me do my thing. I have heard this statement a hundred times over "theres no point in telling her not to do it, she will do it anyhow!" If they have a problem, then it is to me they would turn as I am supposed to have that magic wand to blow it all away.
I suppose I have the right partner. So it is important to select well. Don't go for materialistic benefits. Those add to most unhappy marriages. Don't always look at life from the way you are used to see it. See the other person's view as well. Weigh the pros and cons. Have I said enough?
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you have another job sylvia now
you can be a good marriage counsellor?
I ll be ur assistant if u start such a business.
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Vijayanths don't try to
grab sylvia's chance. Let her be a marriage counselor. Right now she is not in the mood to share her business with you. Keep writing.
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One should sacrifice or compromise vanshika
and save the DIVINE marriage.Women are known for their patience and sacrifice.So let them have the pride and continue their sacrifices.(cool vanshika no more boilings of blood)
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They r known for that vij,
but y not men learn to sacrifice. And if they r known for their sacrifices that doesn't mean... ki koi unka galat istemall kare...
Vaishali I agree
women are of great virtue. They sacrifice for their family but nobody should try to take their undue advantages. It someone tries to do that women are capable enough to teach him a lesson. Good comment from your side. Keep writing.
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Buggeroff!
Trying to cash in to my business? Not a chance!
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Thanks sylvia
For enjoying life one needs to have a good partner. And I feel we rarely get good persons who are ready to understand us and support us in every condition. Keep writing.
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It is your turn Vijay
to read and comment. So read and comment fast. Keep writing.
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Your advice sylvia is
valuable, not only for vanshika, but also for we all. I was also waiting to read what u write.
Thanks Vaishali
I am writing this again as the first time I forgot to post before going off to welcome a guest and it got lost with a power failure.
I re-read Vanishka's article and I feel that she is caught between two worlds. The problem here is an intermix of deep rooted cultures and traditions with modern lifestyles. She is rebellious of the restrictions that are placed on a woman.
Remember my poem..."Will you still want me..."? I didn't mention it, but I wrote it in honour of women who are unable to produce a dowry.
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Oh dear let's enjoy
Sylvia I am of rebellious nature. I can not tolerate anything wrong. My blood just starts boiling when I see people torturing others or tolerating injustice silently. I think I must be like that because I am a teacher and it is my responsibility to teach people or at least my students to fight against any kind of injustice. Keep writing.
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Not in frustation Subbu
I have not said it is bad. I have said that it consumes so much of enegy and time which can be devoted to personal development. Those persons who are very much career contious and do not want any disturbances may decide not to marry.
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Hi Vanshika
Hope u are not in frustration. Even I was thinking the same. Why should we marry?What is the ultimate aim in it. But after thinking a lot, we don't tie with relationships, rather we are enclosed with relationships.You get a small world around you, who loves u, fights with you and die for you. At one point or the other, everyone would definitely like to be loved by an opposite gender and would wish to marry him / her with a view in mind that he / she would be with them forever and through out the life. God had laid down the grounds for everyone of us to prove our ability to play the balls of difficulties.Hence, this requires deeper perception to decide on this. I would suggest to marry if you really have such a thought in mind.
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