Do not throw away your well-wishers yourself
Human being is a complicated creation of God and the most complicated thing is his psychology. Because of it most of us are unable to differentiate between an enemy or a friend. We aften commit the mistake of taking a friend for an enemy and an enemy for a friend.
Being unable to read out the psychological complexities we often do the mistake in understanding the intentions of the people around us. We unintentionally give importance to those who just befool us and make us to pour out the secrets by constant flattery just to get themselves benefited at the right time. We act like a puppet in their hands. Some of these puppeteers are so efficient in the art of befooling that they keep us dancing on their fingers for many years or sometimes the whole life. We are happy enough in their presence as we get momentary happiness from their constant flattery which seems us praise. We are unaware about the harm which they are causing to us because we are too busy to listen to their flattery and fulfilling their needs.
One can imagine how much harm such type of people can cause to us. Now the most important question is how to save ourselves. Even for a psychologist it is difficult to understand a person completely so it is quite clear that it would also be difficult for us. A few steps can be taken to understand a person to some extent.
1. Just do not get flattered immediately. Use your mind to think whether you really deserve the praise.
2. Keep an eye on the person and see if he/she uses that information given by you for his/her own benefit.
3. Test him/her by asking for help.
4. Do not be too to busy to grasp his/her body language.
5. A flatterer would hardly tell you your negatives.
Be careful. If you are unable to analyze properly you can again take a friend to an enemy and an enemy to a friend. Analyze properly so that unfortunately you do not throw your well-wishers out of your life.
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do not throw it away...
Of course it is quite difficult to read what is going on in one's mind.But by looking at their eyes we can some what find out whether they are sincere in their comments,good or bad.After all face is the index of the mind isn't it?rabasure
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Appreiciation
Sometimes true appreiciation may look like flattering and sometimes flattering may appear true and it is all about how you precieve it,but one should be honest in analysing it,I feel
Thats a fact with lot of
Thats a fact with lot of people. I am afraid I am one of them!!
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True Vanshika and i am not flattering as a matter of fact!But it should not go unnoticed that not all people flatter to fool others. There are many who do the same to win friends. It is very important to observe people; some may be doing it only in good thought.So we should'nt let people slip out of our hands only because they flatter. Just wait and watch- we may gradually see their good and affable side.
Vanshika it is a common human tendency
Our true friends are often harsher with us and in a fit of anger or reaction we speak against them. Sometimes we criticise them. Still a wise person is always a true well-wisher of his real friends.