WHAT I LEARNED FROM MY 1ST RELATIONSHIP

Just like any other human being we do learn things from past experience. I myself have my own “learning” especially on my 1st boyfriend.

I loved my first boyfriend very much because he’s my crush. Come on, it’s not that rare that the guy you’re fancying for a couple of years. I had my own fair share of suitors but I simply rejected them because I want my first boyfriend to be someone I like—my long time crush. After two years of praying (yup, I did pray for it) he finally had a courage of courting me. Well, since I didn’t want to look so desperate I gave him my sweet “Yes” after three months.

On our first few months, it was really blissful. Until he started working as a disc jockey and started to have his own set of “fans.” That’s when I felt the strain of the relationship. That’s when he became a Boyfriend from Hell.
I don’t know what pushed him in entertaining the thoughts of flirting with those girls (they’re high schoolers while I was a senior college student…see the age difference?!) until my worst nightmare came knocking on my door…he was started having an affair.

If I were to enumerate the stupid things I did you will surely hand me the crown of being the Queen of Clueless slash Stupidity. I remember he forgot our 1st Year Anniversary. Yup, that’s a Major Crime for us, women, right? Anyway, he was quiet the whole time the following morning when I freaked out. Because he was so sure I will forgive him still. The second incident I remember was I helped him buy gifts which was supposed to be for his relatives, that turned out to be his “gf” and his “gf’s parents!” Imagine?! Lastly, the time he was supposed to join me enrolling on our last semester he was with “her” again.

Anyway, when the time I learned about all these some of our acquaintances and his officemates were aware about this. Just imagine the humiliation of me going through then.

Did I break up with him after that?

Nope, I didn’t.

Because it may too shallow for some to even understand this but at that time my mentality was…it wouldn’t be easy for him to go off the hook. Our relationship extended anther 6 months. And yes, it’s the kind of relationship that you or I, in particular, wouldn’t want to be in. I was emotionally battered, our fights and arguments were not that healthy anymore, and lastly I lost my trust on him. After that I broke up with him.

Guess what? Just as when everybody thought that it would be harder for me to move on after the break up I shocked them as well myself that it took me only 1 whole night of crying and 1 major decision—and I moved on.

So what did I learned from my 1st boyfriend eh?

In our almost 2 years of relationship both of us know I GAVE MY ALL TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK. That’s the main reason why I didn’t regret of breaking up with him. I gave him space when he wanted one. I raked all the patience left and handed it to him everytime he disappointed me. I wasn’t the usual “underdog” or martyr girlfriend you might be thinking. I was always freaking out when he doesn’t visit me like he promised me to, I was also super jealous, but he always being forgiven because I was easily swayed by a box of doughnuts.

Give your love, patience, but NOT YOUR BODY.

The second thing I learned is YOUR 1ST BOYFRIEND ISN’T GOING TO BE YOUR HUSBAND. You will meet other guys. Jump into relationship after him. Just like me.

Meaning, you’ll be meeting guys after HIM. Just explore and move on.

Lastly, NEVER REGRET! Whatever you did during your relationship—don’t keep it in your heart to the point of you having a hard time living your life to the fullest. You may lose your Virginity on your 1st relationship, don’t mop don’t even use it as a reason to sleep around.

Instead whatever you did, may it be good or bad keep it as a lesson and charged it as your own experience in your journey to life and love.

Remember Love is a beautiful thing but just like a Rose it also has its thorns.

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