'You' are responsible for your own happiness

Many times, or shall I say, all times in life, we blame situations, other people,the administration…and who not for our misfortunes.

My kids don’t study!
He is too ignorant to care about the details of the contract!
I can’t do well in this business but don’t have funds for anything else!
My wife is too nagging!
My husband comes home so late…!

You can complain or you can be otherwise.

The essence of a happy life lies not in a problem-free life but in a life filled with happiness, come what may. If you keep blaming and complaining, the situation seldom changes.

Once, Buddha was walking through a village when people started cursing him and abusing him. When he remained utterly unaffected, one of them said, “don’t you hear we are insulting you?”

Buddha replied calmly: “I have stopped being manipulated by others. I am no longer a slave. I am my own master. I act according to myself, not according to anyone else. I act according to my inner need. You cannot force me to do anything. It’s perfectly good you wanted to abuse me, you abused me! you have done your work perfectly well. Feel fulfilled! But as far as I am concerned, I don’t take your insults, and unless I take them, they are meaningless.”

Only when you decide to take charge and change inside does the environment respond accordingly.

The first step towards change is accepatance. Accept it as it is without any judgement.

Then, mould yourself to be peacefully happy about it in the inside. No greviences, no judgements…pure acceptance and pure joy.

When this happens, you’ll notice that the situation or people are beginning to change…but…does it really matter now?

You agree with me but think, “My situation is different…” and start justifying yourself how it is different.

Well, the difference lies in the attitude. Forget the past, accept your present and be joyful. When you take responsibility for your own happiness, who can deter you?

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